Ponderings
Happiness is simple…..when you change an emotional expectation or ‘have to’ into a mild preference, and acceptance of what is…
Think of something, someone, or a situation that is preventing you from being happy at the moment. A need to have things a certain way is a control game, and a resistance to and fear of….(fill in the blank yourself- think about it). How better would the situation have been it it were just a mild reference with no expectation??
We cannot control others, only ourselves, we need only to trust ourselves. Is the need to be able to trust others just another expectation fraught with disappointment?! In the situations that you can control, are the outcomes joyous or exhausting?
Intend happiness, and just be.
Ponderings…
“What if what we call the darkness is only our resistance to accepting what we call the light?
Would that change the way we view the world and others?”
- Peter Ragnar
What We Resist………
What we resist…..persists
Resistance is what causes all pain in life. It is not the adverse situations or feelings that we experience that cause pain – it is your resistance to them. The simple act of ‘not wanting’ is resistance. The opposite of resistance is non – resistance……acceptance.
Acceptance does not mean settling for second best or accepting something negative or not wanted. It is not holding onto that which you do not want – it is letting it come, pass through, and go out……in other words, by resisting we are connecting to and buying into that which we do not want. Non-resistance is not grabbing onto or owning that which you do not want – you are separate from it so it can pass through and fade away – it just is…..acceptance – non-resistance.
